Episode 263

You're lying to yourself anyway, may as well make it helpful

Published on: 22nd December, 2025

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Misty breaks down why those negative thoughts feel so real, even when they aren’t, and how your brain is literally wired to cling to familiar stories, not true ones.

This conversation is especially for hairstylists and salon owners who:

  • Overthink every business decision
  • Struggle with self-doubt, comparison, or imposter syndrome
  • Feel stuck in negative mental loops that kill confidence and momentum

You’ll learn:

  • Why positive thoughts feel “fake” at first (and why that’s normal)
  • How repetition — not truth — creates belief
  • How to rewire negative thought patterns without toxic positivity
  • Simple ways to practice new thoughts so they actually stick
  • Why your mindset directly impacts your confidence, money, and decisions

If you’ve ever felt like your own brain is working against you, this episode will help you understand what’s happening — and how to change it.

✨ Plus, Misty shares a free resource to help you get unstuck and out of your head.

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About the Podcast

The Starting Messy Podcast
Your hairstylists favorite personal development podcast. Hosted by Misty Jayne a life coach for hairstylists..
The Starting Messy Podcast is hosted by Misty Jayne, life coach for hairstylists and salon owners, and it is the only podcast in the beauty industry that goes deeper than tips, trends, and tactics. This is where we get real... about the self-doubt that keeps you from raising your prices, the people pleasing that's running your schedule, the money mindset blocks that have nothing to do with how talented you are, and the version of your life that you know is possible but can't quite figure out how to reach.
This is personal development, filtered through the lens of the beauty industry. And it will change the way you see yourself, your business, and what you're actually capable of.
Every week Misty shows up with honest, unfiltered conversations:
Sometimes solo, sometimes with some of the most real and inspiring voices in the beauty industry, and every single episode is designed to meet you exactly where you are.
No Bullshit. No pretending the hard stuff isn't hard.
Just each person's truth and the kind of conversation that makes you feel like someone finally gets it.
Because you're NOT just a hairstylist: the business strategy only works when the inner work comes first. When you learn to trust yourself, set boundaries without guilt, make decisions without needing everyone's approval, and stop measuring your worth by how full your books are.

Whether you are a stylist in a suite trying to figure out your next move, a salon owner who is holding everything together for everyone else, or a beauty professional who is ready to stop surviving the week and start actually living... you are in the right place.

Topics covered include hairstylist burnout, money mindset, self-trust and confidence, emotional intelligence, boundaries, work life balance, personal development, and building a life and business that actually feels like yours.

Hit follow. Start wherever you are. And welcome to the messy middle — because this is exactly where the good stuff happens.

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Hosted by Misty Jayne — life coach, hairstylist, community builder and your new favorite podcast friend.