Episode 286

The Truth About Hair Industry Retreats w/ Spencer Stout

Published on: 1st June, 2026

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In this episode, Misty sits down with her friend and returning guest Spencer Stout @spencerlaineartistry— colorist, boundary-setter, and the woman who proves that saying no to the wrong clients is actually a business strategy. But today they're not talking about hair. They're talking about the thing that changed both of their lives: going to a retreat when it scared the hell out of them.

Spencer and Misty met in 2019 at their very first retreat. Spencer was newly solo, at the lowest point in her life, and convinced nobody in that room would want to connect with her. Misty was freshly out of a commission salon, hungry for growth, and flying across the country by herself for the first time. Neither of them came for the connection. Both of them left transformed by it.

In this conversation, they get into:

  • Why the education is almost never the thing you remember from a retreat
  • What it actually feels like to walk into a room full of strangers who get it — finally
  • How retreats build the kind of self-trust that solo travel, scary hikes, and 'everybody poops' can also build
  • The difference between a healing retreat and what Misty is creating in Costa Rica for ambitious hairstylists
  • Why investing in a retreat can feel terrifying — and why Spencer (and her husband) think it's worth it every time
  • What happens when you stop going to rooms full of people who don't understand your drive and start going to ones that do

This is also a preview of what's coming: Misty's Costa Rica retreat (spring 2027), designed specifically for ambitious women in the hair industry who are done with content shoots and crystal bowls and ready for something that actually refills the cup rather than cracking them open and sending them home to deal with it alone.

If you've been on the fence about going somewhere, investing in yourself, walking into the big scary room — this episode will either push you over the edge or remind you why you already know you need it.

hairstylist personal development, salon owner mindset, hairstylist retreat, personal growth for hairstylists, solo travel hairstylist, stylist burnout and boundaries, building confidence as a hairstylist, hairstylist community and connection, self-trust for salon owners

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The Starting Messy Podcast
Your hairstylists favorite personal development podcast. Hosted by Misty Jayne a life coach for hairstylists..
The Starting Messy Podcast is hosted by Misty Jayne, life coach for hairstylists and salon owners, and it is the only podcast in the beauty industry that goes deeper than tips, trends, and tactics. This is where we get real... about the self-doubt that keeps you from raising your prices, the people pleasing that's running your schedule, the money mindset blocks that have nothing to do with how talented you are, and the version of your life that you know is possible but can't quite figure out how to reach.
This is personal development, filtered through the lens of the beauty industry. And it will change the way you see yourself, your business, and what you're actually capable of.
Every week Misty shows up with honest, unfiltered conversations:
Sometimes solo, sometimes with some of the most real and inspiring voices in the beauty industry, and every single episode is designed to meet you exactly where you are.
No Bullshit. No pretending the hard stuff isn't hard.
Just each person's truth and the kind of conversation that makes you feel like someone finally gets it.
Because you're NOT just a hairstylist: the business strategy only works when the inner work comes first. When you learn to trust yourself, set boundaries without guilt, make decisions without needing everyone's approval, and stop measuring your worth by how full your books are.

Whether you are a stylist in a suite trying to figure out your next move, a salon owner who is holding everything together for everyone else, or a beauty professional who is ready to stop surviving the week and start actually living... you are in the right place.

Topics covered include hairstylist burnout, money mindset, self-trust and confidence, emotional intelligence, boundaries, work life balance, personal development, and building a life and business that actually feels like yours.

Hit follow. Start wherever you are. And welcome to the messy middle — because this is exactly where the good stuff happens.

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