Episode 272

The Gap Between Wanting Change and Choosing It

Published on: 23rd February, 2026

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If you’re a hairstylist or salon owner who wants more time, peace, money, or boundaries… but keeps circling the same decision, this episode is for you.

In this episode, Misty dives into something she’s noticed after six years of coaching hairstylists and creative entrepreneurs:

The difference between wanting change and actually choosing change.

From filling out coaching applications and ghosting…

To saying you’ll raise your prices but never sending the text…

To talking about cutting back your schedule but never actually doing it…

This episode explores:

  1. Why reaching out feels like progress (but often isn’t)
  2. The identity shift that happens when you move from “I’m trying” to “I’m doing”
  3. How hyper-independence can actually be procrastination
  4. Why potential feels safer than progress
  5. How self-trust is built through tiny decisions
  6. The real reason discipline creates motivation (not the other way around)

If you’re a growth-minded hairstylist who:

  1. Feels stuck between comfort and expansion
  2. Knows you want more balance outside the salon
  3. Struggles with boundaries, pricing, or stepping into your next level
  4. Keeps saying “now’s not the right time”

This episode will feel like a loving mirror.

Because the gap between wanting and choosing?

That’s where your self-trust is built.

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The Starting Messy Podcast
Your hairstylists favorite personal development podcast. Hosted by Misty Jayne a life coach for hairstylists..
The Starting Messy Podcast is hosted by Misty Jayne, life coach for hairstylists and salon owners, and it is the only podcast in the beauty industry that goes deeper than tips, trends, and tactics. This is where we get real... about the self-doubt that keeps you from raising your prices, the people pleasing that's running your schedule, the money mindset blocks that have nothing to do with how talented you are, and the version of your life that you know is possible but can't quite figure out how to reach.
This is personal development, filtered through the lens of the beauty industry. And it will change the way you see yourself, your business, and what you're actually capable of.
Every week Misty shows up with honest, unfiltered conversations:
Sometimes solo, sometimes with some of the most real and inspiring voices in the beauty industry, and every single episode is designed to meet you exactly where you are.
No Bullshit. No pretending the hard stuff isn't hard.
Just each person's truth and the kind of conversation that makes you feel like someone finally gets it.
Because you're NOT just a hairstylist: the business strategy only works when the inner work comes first. When you learn to trust yourself, set boundaries without guilt, make decisions without needing everyone's approval, and stop measuring your worth by how full your books are.

Whether you are a stylist in a suite trying to figure out your next move, a salon owner who is holding everything together for everyone else, or a beauty professional who is ready to stop surviving the week and start actually living... you are in the right place.

Topics covered include hairstylist burnout, money mindset, self-trust and confidence, emotional intelligence, boundaries, work life balance, personal development, and building a life and business that actually feels like yours.

Hit follow. Start wherever you are. And welcome to the messy middle — because this is exactly where the good stuff happens.

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