Episode 276

Stop Waiting for Your People to Find You: How to Beat Loneliness & Build Real Connection as a Hairstylist

Published on: 23rd March, 2026

Do you ever feel lonely — not the "I'm home alone" kind of loneliness, but the deeper kind? The kind where you're surrounded by people but can't find anyone who gets your ambitions, your struggles, or your desire to grow?

In this episode, Misty Jayne gets real about the funk she found herself in last year — and what she did to pull herself out of it. Whether you're a hairstylist in a suite feeling isolated, a salon owner craving deeper conversations, or a beauty professional who's ready to stop scrolling and start connecting, this episode is for you.

Misty shares:

  1. Why hairstylists and salon owners are especially vulnerable to a unique kind of loneliness
  2. How she went from struggling in silence to flying across the country solo to a retreat — and finding her business besties
  3. The birth of The Messy Meetup, her intimate monthly digital community built for deep, real conversations
  4. Why social media creates a false sense of connection (and what to do instead)
  5. How to stop waiting for your people and start creating the rooms where they gather
  6. Why you don't need a big budget or a big platform to build community — just a bat signal

If you're a hairstylist or salon owner who's into personal development, building a thriving beauty business, and showing up as your fullest self, this episode will light a fire under you.

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About the Podcast

The Starting Messy Podcast
Your hairstylists favorite personal development podcast. Hosted by Misty Jayne a life coach for hairstylists..
The Starting Messy Podcast is hosted by Misty Jayne, life coach for hairstylists and salon owners, and it is the only podcast in the beauty industry that goes deeper than tips, trends, and tactics. This is where we get real... about the self-doubt that keeps you from raising your prices, the people pleasing that's running your schedule, the money mindset blocks that have nothing to do with how talented you are, and the version of your life that you know is possible but can't quite figure out how to reach.
This is personal development, filtered through the lens of the beauty industry. And it will change the way you see yourself, your business, and what you're actually capable of.
Every week Misty shows up with honest, unfiltered conversations:
Sometimes solo, sometimes with some of the most real and inspiring voices in the beauty industry, and every single episode is designed to meet you exactly where you are.
No Bullshit. No pretending the hard stuff isn't hard.
Just each person's truth and the kind of conversation that makes you feel like someone finally gets it.
Because you're NOT just a hairstylist: the business strategy only works when the inner work comes first. When you learn to trust yourself, set boundaries without guilt, make decisions without needing everyone's approval, and stop measuring your worth by how full your books are.

Whether you are a stylist in a suite trying to figure out your next move, a salon owner who is holding everything together for everyone else, or a beauty professional who is ready to stop surviving the week and start actually living... you are in the right place.

Topics covered include hairstylist burnout, money mindset, self-trust and confidence, emotional intelligence, boundaries, work life balance, personal development, and building a life and business that actually feels like yours.

Hit follow. Start wherever you are. And welcome to the messy middle — because this is exactly where the good stuff happens.

New episodes drop weekly.
Hosted by Misty Jayne — life coach, hairstylist, community builder and your new favorite podcast friend.